Nothing can truly supplant the wisdom of our own inner conscience. The human spirit, ultimately, refuses to be canned, and adorned with pretty little labels, to sit on the sleepy shelf of ignorance! Could it be that, in our fast-paced modern world of rapid change, the institution of marriage has become obsolete?? What will the modern family evolve into? Only time can tell. But championing the god-given rights of people in having the power to steer their own destinies should always be the hallmark of a healthy and prospering society.
Why do so many marriages fail anyway? In my way of seeing things, the answer, perhaps, can be found within a broader picture. Though, I’ll be the first to concede that by no means am I an expert on marriages (I’ve never been married), nor do I profess to have a monopoly on the wisdom of human relationships in general. However, it does seem to me that one doesn’t need to be a rocket scientist to figure out, through observation and by listening to people, that underlying the activities of everyday human life exists a silent melancholy that is slowly undermining the morale of people! Especially in the cities. The people’s sense of resolve is a fabric that continues to fray. One can hear it in the their voices; see it in the lines of their faces; by the saddened stare of their eyes; in the gait of their walk. Have you ever sat down in a crowded public space…and just observed people (without staring) over a period of time? I have, many times, and it can be quite revealing! Again, this is only my view. I am sure others will see things differently. And still yet, some may disagree with me entirely. After all, the beauty of sharing ideas is that we can learn from all points of view. The process of human beings sharing their creative insights with other human beings makes for one of the most rewarding ways of growing and learning in this world - by openly sharing our views with each other.
My view then: A discontented society , albeit… silent as it may be for now, will eventually find another voice. And if it is not a voice guided by wisdom, then what? The more disconnected people become from the inner constitution of their own hearts, and its unfailing guidance, the more they will feel the “need” for something else to replace, or fill, that vacuum? The danger is that their attention, now almost entirely focused outwardly, thanks to the world’s highly efficient marketers, becomes susceptible to being trapped in a synthetic objective reality. A world no longer being fed by the beacon of inner wisdom. Of course, this “outer pseudo constitution,” if you will, is written by the lawmakers of humanity; and for the most part, crystalized to impose the facilitation of power by force…rather than through an unfolding and sharing of human dignity and love by natural means. Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m not suggesting there be no law and order in society. What I am saying though is…if there is to be law and order, shouldn’t we take every effort, as custodians of the planet, for that law and order to be premised on the higher natural laws of wisdom and the economy it provides? Wisdom shines its own light.
Additionally, our consumer-based free market system has become so manic for the lust of “more”…which has now spread to the four corners of the globe, that contentment scarcely has a chance to take root in many peoples’ hearts as such; let alone, grow and flourish in their lives? Not to mention that the unequivocal raping of the planet’s natural resources, many of them finite in terms of supply, is threatening the very survival of the planet itself and everything that lives on it! Sadly, it seems the world is moving in a direction where individual human idiosyncrasies have become the product of an objectified world of global economics based mainly on greed, fear, and power.
The particularly toxic part of all of this is that our mass marketing system, and its myriad avenues of propaganda, have all but reassured us that the status quo has effectively become attached to “feeling” it all as being “normal” somehow? Even natural!? If not at the very least, justified!? To put it bluntly, a great number of people are no longer in possession of themselves…they are no longer in contact with their inner wisdom. Thier personal sense of acuity has been annexed by the mechanization of outer mediocrity. For the many, they are but puppets for the few. And if that were not enough, all are expected, and encouraged, to sing the song of ”All-In-The-Name-Of-Progress,” with perfect harmony, lest they suddenly be exposed to the shock of awareness!
Ah, but there is light at the end of the tunnel afterall. So as the world seeks to build walls of containment around individual’s freedoms, rights, and liberties…may the artists; the writers; the musicians; the dancers; the sculptors; the actors; and all other forms of creative expression, seek to tear down those walls, to nudge us all in remembering the formless voice of wisdom within. For that is who we really are. May the light of our unfettered mastery soar freely to find our muse joyously playing with life. And may this light, too, find its way back into the world so others can clearly see their way! And finally, and most importantly of all, may the voice of love always prevail!
Randy Quickfall ღƪ(ˆ◡ˆ)ʃ ☼
Randy .. well said… so many do not know how to listen to their internal guidance.. ..nor how to
reprogram it if what it tells you is wrong… looking out to look in never works.
We are all part of this awesome planet and connected to all forms seen and unseen.
Thanks for shining your light ღƪ(ˆ◡ˆ)ʃ ☼
Շɧαɳӄ ў☼ʊ June, I always appreciate you views and support! ((hugs))
I sometimes wonder whether the seemingly relentless march of the consumption-driven society, of the marketing men, of the politically-supported drive for more, more, more is all necessary to cause people to awaken.
It’s so easy to drift along when things are more or less okay. We may grumble, we may wander around in vague dissatisfaction, but ultimately we shrug our shoulders and do our best to cope.
As the walls tighten around us though, as the drive to accumulate more and more possessions that buy us, at best, only a short-term illusion of happiness accelerates, as the lawmakers tighten their control over diversity to avoid anything that might upset the apple-cart … well, these are the very things that are causing more and more people, as you say, to realise that this Simply Does Not Work. The greater the pressure to conform, the greater the desire to escape from outwardly-imposed bounds, to seek a better way, to find a way to live that meets our inner needs, our true needs, more closely.
I have hope …
Thank you for sharing Jeff. For me, everything is just experience. There is no absolute “good” or “bad” (contrary to what most religions teach, especially in the Western world)..for, what is good for one, may not be good for another. Which is why it is so important, I feel, to follow the guidance within ourselves. The inner nudge that guides us always knows what is best for us in any given moment. Of course, a frantic world busy trying to keep the “apple-cart” from tipping, as you say, and predominately motivated by the “bottom line,” will always attempt to tell us what it thinks is best for us. No wonder anxiety and depression are on the rise?! Interestingly, here too, the powerful profit-driven pharmaceutical companies are eager to capitalize. After all, ailing affliction is much more profitable than health and wellness!
In the end, however, as I have said before, it is all just experience to better facilitate the unfolding of wisdom. Without the outer world, and the opportunity of plenitude it provides, we simply would not have the opportunity for growth. So in a way, one could say that the objective world could be viewed as one big school house. If experience brings us to a better place of love and wisdom, then our ripening has not been in vain. Thanks again for sharing Jeff, much appreciated!
Hi Randy,
Thank You Sweetie for yet another chance to dive into what makes you tick. Always look forward to hear what’s on your mind. Thank You for sharing my Dear! 
I think it all comes down to experience too. Everything we do does just that…. I also am no expert as you know in marriage, but I think most people want one thing… to be loved. Now yes, that can have many different definitions because we are all different & no two people have even lived the same life. Years ago, when I was a kid, it seemed that most couples that got married… stayed married. Well over the years that seems to be changing a lot. There are so many “distractions” nowadays…. so many more opportunities to better ones life, getting better jobs for men & women & it seems priorities just are a lot different than they used to be. They are… life IS different, than years past. What is sad though…. a lot of the people that are goal oriented with a great career, who say at the beginning, well we can have children later, there is plenty of time… well before you know… at the blink of an eye… time just flies & all those people that wanted to start a family later…. maybe waited too long… or maybe lost the person they thought they would grow old together with, through death or just grown apart. Priorities change as we age… for many reasons…. Yes, I think a person should listen to themselves. A lot of the time though, fear can creep in, lots of times not even knowing its there. I do that… well, what if this or how can that work… well, you’ll never know unless you try. In the end… I want to grow old with the man I love and be married to my husband… whomever he may end up being! *smiles*
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Mahalo,
Di
I enjoyed reading your comment Dianne. Let me say that I absolutely believe in the union of a man and a woman. After all, life has designed men and women to be together; to fall in love, and to share that love with one another, to create a family together, to hopefully grow old together while sharing their heartaches, joys, losses, and victories along the way. It is all part of the human experience in the unfolding of wisdom.
What I see, however, are many people getting married for the wrong reasons. Whether bound by custom, religion, family expectations, money, fame, status, or whatever, people feel obligated to get married for reasons other than dictated by their own heart. For many, the natural attraction of true love seems to have been lost? Nowadays, a growing number of people, within the increasingly popular trend of a sensationalized narcissistic society, inflated by the idealism of celebrity, fattened by a profit hungry economy, and fortified by an all too willing mass media system, appears to treat “marriage” as a balm to mitigate the utter sense of despondency that has overtaken their hearts. The view is: Maybe the Cinderella story of getting married will solve all my woes? Of course, much to the glee of divorce lawyers, it doesn’t!
That is not to say that all marriages start out not based on true love…I don’t believe that either. That would simply be painting “marriage” with way too wide a paintbrush. However, I do feel that, for many people who did marry for the right reasons, somewhere along the way …one or the other or both…became distracted? What happened? It’s a question many people asks themselves while trying to pluck themselves from the ruins of a failed marriage. As time goes by, it’s becoming clear to me that the world is cultivating societies where everyone is in a race to get to nowhere. And, the fear is that people feel they will miss out on something if they don’t take part in the race? What they don’t realise though is what they are missing …is a connection to what “is real”.
The great gift of life, however, is that every moment of our lives is based on the truth of what “is real”…if we are willing to place our attention on it and receive its wisdom. We only need to listen to our hearts; for, it’s rhythm beats a path to our own true happiness. Thanks for sharing Dianne. May you and your true love find each other to share in all the joy and happiness that life has to offer! ((hugs)) Mahalo